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Do you have friends and family to share books with? Discuss them with? Does it matter to you?

I have never been a member of book group so I cannot remember the last time I was able to discuss a book with someone else who’d read it—at least not to the details and exhaustion that one expects in a book club. Most of my friends don’t read as extensively as I do, let alone talking about the books. They would make passing comments on books they would like to read and exchange recommendation. I sound like a snob but the books that surface in the casual/social conversation are either the ones I have read or I don’t give two straw about. The truth is: Who can really keep up with my reading? It doesn’t matter my reading fails to overlap with anyone else’s because reading is my escape. It was when I’m unhappy as a kid that I wanted stories most, a form of addiction that is to stay with me for life. Books are to be my great comfort and resource, my most reliable retreat that doesn’t require company. At times I even find it difficult to be in anyone’s company for more than a few hours before the longing comes over me to be alone with a book. After all this said, I do enjoy the time with my friend R in whose company we read our own books over coffee in the morning. We would read funny and/or inspiring passages to one another.

20 Responses

  1. I share my reading with a few friends that enjoy reading. Plus, I work in a library and I have a few students that are just as obsessed with reading as I am!

  2. I am lucky that my husband and my children all understand my addiction for reading (its nothing else) but there is no one else I can share this with. Passion for reading is totally absent amongst friends! people do read but its a take it or leave it attitude – not like mine where I will forego almost anything for a book I want or need!!!

    • My friends are all busy going out, clubbing, and raising kids. I am thankful for the few with whom I can discuss books over coffee.

  3. I am a member of an online reading group that occasionally has in-depth discussions about specific books and lots of general discussions about reading. Other than that, I only ever discuss books in the most superficial terms with my co-workers and my mother.

    • It’s not until I started blogging that I can openly (and in unbridled manner) discuss books with people who actually know what I’m talking about. 🙂

  4. I have no one to talk about books with – none of my family or friends are avid readers like me. Its a bit disappointing as it would be nice to have someone close to chat about books with, but its just not happening. I joined Goodreads to chat about books and I have my book blog, so those are two outlets for me when it comes to discussing books. Oh well, at the end of the day I enjoy my reading time and I suppose that is what matters most.

    • I rely on Goodreads to decide what books to buy and what to borrow from the library. Goodreads can be addictive! I enjoy discussing books with you all here.

  5. ” At times I even find it difficult to be in anyone’s company for more than a few hours before the longing comes over me to be alone with a book. ”

    I thought I was the only one who felt this way!

  6. I too like the cpmpany of books better than socialising!


    • I get really bored when I’m in a party in which people talk about superficial things that I don’t give two straw about. I rather be at home with my book. 🙂

  7. It is wonderful that you find solace in your reading time with yourself. The nice thing about books is that they don’t have to be shared with others.

    • Reading is a conversation with the author through what’s written on the pages. Then it’s a time of reflection which is best done alone.

  8. I don’t think you sound like a snob! I feel that way too sometimes. I have friends and family members who are huge readers, but I often find that our reading doesn’t overlap. The people I used to exchange recommendations with have changed so much over the years that we don’t really have reading tastes in common anymore. :/

    • Thanks Jenny. 🙂 I never expect people’s reading to overlap with mine. I rarely offer recommendation unless they ask. I am, after all, quite eclectic in my taste. I don’t want to force my choices upon what people usually regard as pleasantry remarks on books.

  9. I am lucky that I have a “book buddy” a couple of years ago mainly by luck. We both enjoy reading the same genre so we buddy up and read books together. We have not actually met each other and all of the discussions happen via emails. We have some online book clubs in common but still feel our discussions with each are more in depth and enjoyable. The a couple of genres we do not share in common but that is ok.

    • Having someone to talk about books with is like a relationship. We often have to account for the difference as no one person could have the exact same reading taste. I still haven’t the luck to find a book club that consistently selects books that I enjoy to read.

  10. I have a long time friend with whom I frequently discuss literature, usually in our weekly phone chat. Also, at home there are certain books (or portions thereof) which are read in common, so these get discussed, sometimes over a long period of time.

  11. I envy you have a literature buddy and that you read passages to Thomas in the morning. 🙂

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